The Passenger Seat

Where exhaustion, grace, and a miracle collided

We walked into the hospital and immediately found the chaos—officers, medical staff, Chris, and Carter all moving at once.

And suddenly, we were those people.
The parents rushing in after something unthinkable.
Surrounded by uniforms and flashing lights and medical urgency.

I ran to Carter and wrapped my arms around him, thanking God—out loud—for keeping this not-so-little boy alive.
Safe.
Breathing.
Mine.

I spotted my purse.
Found my phone.

It’s amazing what feels like a victory in moments like that.

I looked him over.

He was okay.
No obvious injuries.
Just a small scrape—almost a burn—on the right side of his face from the airbag.

That was it.

I knew right then:
this whole thing was a miracle.
One giant, overwhelming, impossible miracle.

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Then the questions started.

First, the officer.

He handed me a piece of paper.

“Your court date is December 8th.”

I stared at him.

Court?

It didn’t register. I wanted to say, Sir, read the room.
Can’t you see what we’re dealing with here?

Significant disabilities.
Intellectual disability.
Autism.
ADHD.

The list is endless.

He went on to explain that police from three counties had been involved.
Carter had eluded them in Boulder and Estes Park.

Eluded.
That was the word.

That was the ticket.
One.

Looking back, I know there could have been many more.
We were lucky—this officer had compassion and understanding and limited it to one.

I was deeply grateful.

Then he said,

“I mean… he was driving your Aviator. Like—he was really DRIVING.”

I had a million questions.

How did this child drive that far without killing someone?
Or crashing into a building?
Or hitting a cyclist?

He doesn’t know his letters.
He doesn’t know his numbers.
He absolutely does not know what a speed limit is.

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Then came the social worker.

I braced myself for the questions I expected:

Where were you?
Who was watching him?
Where were the keys?
How did you let this happen?

That’s not what happened.

She said,

“I’ve seen him, and I don’t have any reason to keep him. I think you’re good to go.”

Oh hell no, we’re not.

I told her—calmly but very clearly—that Carter was going to Children’s Hospital Neuropsychiatric Special Care Unit-NSC.
We were already on the outpatient waitlist.

Either they could transport him,
or I would.

But that is where he was going.

She didn’t argue.

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After that conversation, I sat alone in a small, dark room and called my mom.

No story.
No explanation.

I just asked if I could borrow her extra car.

She said yes immediately.
No questions.

When I tried to tell her pieces of what had happened, I fell apart.
I don’t remember the words.

I only remember that she sobbed too.
Neither of us could believe what I was saying out loud.

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Carter was discharged within minutes.

Chris drove us across town.
I had no car.
My mind was racing.

The tears finally came.

What just happened?
What is happening?
Can we rewind twelve hours and try again?

I knew what was coming next—and I knew it wouldn’t be fast.
I would have to demand a psychiatric evaluation and refuse to take him home to get the care he needed.

But first—food.

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We let Carter choose.

He picked Noodles & Company.

I remember exactly what he ordered.
I remember what I ordered too.

I took two bites and threw the rest away.
There was just no way.

Tears fell silently through that meal, staring at him across the table, trying to keep myself together long enough to stand up again.

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At the ER, Carter’s right ear had swollen to nearly three times its normal size from the accident.

I decided to leverage that.

I mean—did the first hospital even look at his ear as it grew in real time?
I don’t think so.

No questions asked.
We got a room.

Carter was incredible.

Calm.
Cooperative.
Letting the nurses and doctors do what they needed to do.

Then another social worker came in.

I told the story again.

Physically, he was okay.
Mentally, he was not.

And we were not leaving.

There was no pushback.
None.

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I’ve heard the horror stories—what parents have to do to access this incredibly specialized program.

Apparently, if you steal your mom’s car, drive seventy-five miles, and end in an accident, you get a free pass to the NSC.

Carter spent two nights in the ER holding area before a bed opened up.
He stayed one week inpatient, followed by almost three weeks outpatient with the NSC.

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That first night, my thoughts spiraled.

Who is going to give him yogurt and meds exactly the right way?
He doesn’t have his pillow.
His blanket.
His noise machine.

What happens in the morning when he wakes up hangry?

This kid needs his apple, peanut butter, and applesauce—with meds—within fifteen minutes of opening his eyes.

I didn’t even want to imagine the alternative.

And then the truth I didn’t want to admit:

I could not stay.

I was beyond tired.
Dead on my feet.
Barely functioning.

Holding myself upright through sheer will.

If I stayed, I wouldn’t help him.
I would collapse.

Chris took me to my mom’s to get the car.
In a few hours, I would drive myself back and figure out next steps.

I needed rest to survive what was coming.

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Later, while Chris stayed with Carter, I drove to the tow yard to collect what was left of my totaled car.

It could have waited.
But I needed to do something.

I took the route we believe Carter took.

It was gut-wrenching.

How did he do this?
How did he get this far?
How did he not hit a cyclist on Highway 93?

Because if you’ve ever driven between Boulder and Lyons,
you’ve almost hit one yourself.

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When I get to heaven, I have two requests.

First:
a dashcam video of how Carter did it—every mile, every turn.

Second:
a video of his face while he did it—
because I know he was having the best damn time of his life.

It was a miracle.

He is my miracle.

God was sitting in the passenger seat that day.

And I will always believe that.

Holding both,
Maria